Much has been said about the word ‘forgiveness,’ so my plan is to share only what I have to say that I haven’t heard being said before.
God is the Source of all good things, (James 1:17) so I picture this as, ‘God’s River of Give-ness.’
Picture yourself as a part of the huge river flowing from the Source of all Goodness; you would naturally be overflowing with what is called ‘The Living Water,’ the good gifts of God; Love, Joy, peace, etc.
When all is well in the universe, ever person is filled to overflowing, receiving, and then passing on God’s give-ness/love/goodness to others.
But then something happens; someone really pisses you off, perhaps for the five hundredth time, and you say, “Now you’ve done it, that’s it, I’ve had it with you!”
At that point you have held a silent trial in your head, condemned them, and pronounced them guilty, in their case you have nothing more to give.
In my words, as far as they are concerned, you have closed the locks of the river of give-ness.
I believe all of this must happen before you can truly say the words, “I forgive you,” because I picture for-give-ness as a re-opening of the locks of the river of give-ness, to the guilty party.
I wrote a book titled, “Condemned?” in which I say God never condemns us in the first place, and there is never even a hiccup in His river of Give-ness, so therefore the word ‘forgiveness,’ is more our word than His. Jesus will say, “I forgive you,” if we need to hear it, but He has never condemned any of His children in the first place.
I also say love and forgiveness can never be separated, that they are two sides of the same coin, if you run out of forgiveness, you have reached the perimeter of your love, and there is no perimeter to God’s Love/Forgiveness, because it is infinite.