Everyone knows us humans seem to have been born selfish, and so all of the pastors I know preach unselfishness, and other-centeredness, but the word unselfish still has ‘self’ hiding right in the middle of it.
When you read more closely with spiritual eyes, the Bible does not teach unselfishness, and/or other-centeredness, – – – it teaches we are to become selfless, and God centered.
My paraphrase of the Golden rule is; To do the most loving thing for everyone concerned, not excluding yourself. In other words, when you bake a pie or order pizza, you get just as big a piece as everyone else.
It says to “Love others ‘AS’ yourself.” To me that means equal to yourself.
The only safe way to love yourself, is ‘as if’ you are one of the others.
“I am crucified with Christ; nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.” (Galatians 2:20)
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